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Why Dating Is So Hard for High-Achieving Women
(And What You Can Do About It)
Monica Wadwa
November 25, 2025
Hello beautiful human!
I recently recorded a podcast with an exceptionally high-achieving woman. She’s thriving in her business, surrounded by a wonderful circle of friends and family, paid to travel the world for work, has the cutest little dog, and is genuinely happy in her personal life—yet she still feels lost and confused when it comes to love.
I see this pattern again and again with my female clients, and it often comes down to five core reasons:
1. They learned love was conditional.
Many high-achieving women grew up believing that love had to be earned. That belief often follows them into adulthood, leading them into unhealthy or unbalanced relationship dynamics.
2. They’ve been conditioned to be hyper-independent.
Independence is a strength—but taken to the extreme, it can leave a man feeling like there’s no space for him in her life.
3. They lean heavily on masculine energy.
Their ability to tap into masculine energy helps them excel professionally. But when that same energy dominates their dating life, it can create energetic disharmony and weaken sexual polarity.
4. They dim their shine to feel safe.
Some high-achieving women intentionally date men who are less driven, believing this will protect them from abandonment. But misalignment almost always leads to dissatisfaction or the eventual breakdown of the relationship.
5. Perfectionism skews their priorities.
A perfectionistic mind may focus on surface-level traits over deeper qualities like empathy, communication, and integrity—traits that actually matter most in healthy, lasting relationships.
You can watch the full episode on YouTube, where we go deeper into these patterns and how high-achieving women can create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Do any of these resonate with you? We’d love to hear your thoughts—simply reply to this email and let’s continue the conversation, where I can give you customised advice on how you can transform these things that are holding you back in your love life, into fuel to thrive in love.
With Love,
Monica @ True Connection
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