Single over the Christmas holidays? 🎄

Hello beautiful human!

Wishing you a very Merry Christmas!! 🎉

Christmas has a way of amplifying everything…
The joy.
The nostalgia.
And for many people… the loneliness.

If you’re single this Christmas, you might find yourself feeling “behind,” left out, or quietly wondering why everyone else seems paired up while you’re not. You might feel anxiety knowing that Auntie Betty will be asking you (for the 10 millionth time!), ‘So when are you going to settle down and find yourself a husband?’  

First, let me say this clearly:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

Being single says nothing about your worth and everything about:
1. Where you’re at on your healing journey
2. Your standards
3. And divine timing.

Being single over the holidays is a season, not a life sentence.

And while it can feel tender, it can also be an opportunity to relate to yourself in a deeper, kinder way.

Here are a few gentle reminders and tools to help you get through the festive period with more peace and self-compassion:

1. Stop telling yourself stories that hurt you
The holidays have a way of triggering old narratives like ‘I’m running out of time’, or ‘If I were more lovable, I wouldn’t be alone.’
Notice when these thoughts appear, and ask yourself, ‘Is this really true?’ Remember, these are thoughts, not facts. Your relationship status says nothing about your worth, nor your future.

2. Curate your environment
You’re allowed to mute or take breaks from social media if it’s triggering. You’re also allowed to say no to events that feel draining and yes to ones that feel nourishing, even if that means a quiet evening in.

3. Romanticise your solo time
Light candles. Take yourself on a solo date. Buy yourself a gift you genuinely love. Make Christmas a romantic time celebrating the love you have for yourself.

4. Let connection look different this year
Connection doesn’t only come in the from of a romantic partnership. Fun evenings with your close girl friends, belly laughter with family members, or even peaceful moments of solitude can allow you to feel deep connection, just in a different way.

5. Trust the timing of your life
The pause before a romantic partnership is not punishment, it’s preparation. Many people look back and realise that the single seasons they were in, were when they healed, grew, and gained the most clarity.

You are not “behind.” You are becoming.

And the love that is meant for you will not miss you. It will find you when you’re most ready to receive it.

Sending you warmth and good wishes over this Christmas period. 🎁

Does this resonate with you? We’d love to hear your thoughts. Simply reply to this email and let’s continue the conversation.

With Love,
Monica @ True Connection
💌