If you're single right now, you need to write this list...

Hello beautiful human!

I need you to write a list…

I need you to write a list with your:

1. Non-negotiables in a relationship

2. Needs

3. Wants.

These lists are going to help guide you to the partner of your dreams.

And whenever you date someone, I want you to remind yourself of this list and cross reference to see if this person is suitable for you. And here’s the most important part - IN THAT ORDER.

The problem that I see with a lot of my clients is that they are prioritising qualities they are looking for in a partner in the opposite order. The are valuing their surface level wants over their non-negotiables and needs in a relationship.

The surface level wants might spark chemistry, but they are not the qualities that are going to cultivate a long lasting relationship.

Some people will stay silent about their non-negotiables at the early stages of dating because they don’t want to “seem difficult”. But the truth is, if you don’t reveal these truths, they will end up revealing themselves down the line and causing much more heartbreak and pain.

And remember, your surface level wants do not equate to the needs that you have in a relationship. As an example, wanting to be with someone who is wealthy does not necessarily equate to someone who makes you feel financially safe.

A healthy partnership isn’t about minimising what you need. It’s about knowing what level of importance something is for you, owning it, and communicating it clearly to the other person.

Do any of these resonate with you? We’d love to hear your thoughts—simply reply to this email and let’s continue the conversation.

With Love,
Monica @ True Connection
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